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Couples Counselling

Couples counselling is this: we place your relationship in the centre of our discussions, with an aim to understand how each person operates within the relationship, and what effect the relationship has on each person.

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Why couples come to counselling

There are many reasons why people seek out relationship counselling. Perhaps you are hoping to communicate better with your partner, or maybe there has been a rupture in your relationship and you want to reconnect. Maybe you have experienced conflict, hurt, or grief and loss, and you need to regard one another with more understanding and care.

While the therapy is inclusive of each individual person, it is by looking through the lens of your relationship that we proceed with understanding how to best move forward.

I am affirming of all relationships, between individuals of any background, at whatever level of commitment you are.

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You don’t have to wait for a crisis

We all live in different relational ecosystems. Alfred Adler said that “all problems are interpersonal problems” and - while it may be more nuanced than that for you - it is true that navigating relationships with others can be both a source of joy and distress. Like trees in a forest ecosystem, we have the opportunity to nourish and support those around us, or we can feel like resources are scarce and we are competing for time and attention. Coming to couples therapy before significant problems arise can be a great way to keep resentment and disillusionment out of your relationship.

When you come to couples therapy, my aim is to help you create psychological flexibility as you navigate the ups and downs of your relationship, through understanding of yourselves and each other, recognizing past experiences, and noticing adaptive thought patterns and responses.

What we look at together

I draw from many different modalities and have a particular affinity for the approaches below. By combining empathy, curiosity, emotional attunement and motivational interviewing, we’ll work to understand the patterns of relating that come up in your relationship; how your experiences, unique environments and stressors affect the relationship; and what it is like to strive to accomplish one’s own life tasks while supporting and encouraging your partner to accomplish theirs.

Adlerian Psychology

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)

Attachment Theory

Internal Family Systems (IFS)

Motivational Interviewing